Groupie

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  The first time I heard this word was when Drake called someone a groupie in one of his songs, I did not check for the meaning until an influencer talked about it recently The google definitions are too extreme and derogatory but in the context of what I'm talking about a groupie can be someone who always wants to be with the "happening guys". After pondering about it for a couple of days I realized we might be and this mentee, mentor, networking, your association rave in Nigeria might have turned most of us to ā€œgroupiesā€ in a way. The need to follow the latest popping person, enter their dms and introduce yourself, ask them to mentor you or to just be able to say I know them, bla bla bla   is turning some of us into something else I donā€™t have much to say but I pray we remember that as we appreciate the light in others, their talents and gifts, we'll never  lose sight of the light, talents and gifts we carry too. Appreciate them but focus on making your light ...
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I FAILED AGAIN

 


Hmmm, I just checked my financials i.e. how I spent my income this month and my heart is brokenšŸ’”šŸ˜©, why wonā€™t these tearsšŸ˜­ just come out? How did I end up making a mistake as big as this? Apparently I spent all my income without saving anything, instead I touched my savings. To feel better, I want to think of the savings spent as emergency fund, started listening to grown woman by BeyoncĆ© but right now I donā€™t want to grow(adulting is the biggest scamšŸ˜’), switched to miracles by Sia,it says

ā€¦If you wanna beat your chest 'cause you feel the emptiness

Go on and feel your loneliness

Go on and feel your loneliness

Then call me 'cause we're both in thisā€¦

The song was made for times like this. Putting my stomach in the bank seems like the solution to this money allocation issue. I invested in skincare, at the time it made sense but now it makes no sense. For next month, Iā€™m tempted to pay no tithe but I will (itā€™s a plus not a minus), torn between applauding myself for the new lesson learnt or weep over spilt milk. I choose to do both.

Anyways, next month Iā€™m saving 40% of my allowance to make up for my lost savings, using a wig instead of the kinky hair style Iā€™ve been imagining, will buy a lot of provisions. No sharwarma, chicken and chipsšŸ˜­šŸ˜­ or smoothies instead a bunch of bananas and Iā€™ll make sure they last more than a day since my #nosodachallenge has to continue, might only give in kind as in good gestures not cash. The lesson learnt is that ā€œDonā€™t assume that you can afford something because your account balance looks like itā€™s smiling, look well before you leapā€

Financial freedom is indeed a journey, there will be pitfalls like this, but sticking with new plans will get you out of it in no time. Writing about it because itā€™s a better way to let my emotions out.

P.s You should listen to miracles by Sia,it's amazing

Leave a comment,thanks for reading and have a wonderful day.

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