Groupie

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  The first time I heard this word was when Drake called someone a groupie in one of his songs, I did not check for the meaning until an influencer talked about it recently The google definitions are too extreme and derogatory but in the context of what I'm talking about a groupie can be someone who always wants to be with the "happening guys". After pondering about it for a couple of days I realized we might be and this mentee, mentor, networking, your association rave in Nigeria might have turned most of us to “groupies” in a way. The need to follow the latest popping person, enter their dms and introduce yourself, ask them to mentor you or to just be able to say I know them, bla bla bla   is turning some of us into something else I don’t have much to say but I pray we remember that as we appreciate the light in others, their talents and gifts, we'll never  lose sight of the light, talents and gifts we carry too. Appreciate them but focus on making your light
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SAY NO TO RAPE!


Molestation, the genesis of rape is simply touching the private sensitive parts of a human body without consent or permission. Their age,gender,dressing, what you think their prior signal to you mean,does not matter, NO is NO. We scream about the rape cases e.g. #Justice for Uwa and Ada and Yangy’s case  but  rape occurs in its mildest form.
As a growing child, anytime someone tried to touch me unnecessarily without my permission in the name of calling me (thinking that I am either deaf or they are dumb) there was always this anger that shot through me and most times I hit the person back as reflex and by people I mean friends,one of my classmates in SS3(he was so shocked) and several strangers that just do it because they think it is normal. There are several times I’ve heard guys joking about touching a girl's body and calling a mistake. That is the beginning of rape, the mindset that there are no repercussions. 

Findings from a National Survey carried out in 2014 on Violence Against Children in Nigeria confirmed one in four females reported experiencing sexual violence in childhood with approximately 70% reporting more than one incident of sexual violence. In the same study, it was found that 24.8% of females’ ages 18 to 24 years experienced sexual abuse prior to age 18 of which 5.0% sought help, with only 3.5% receiving any services.
Well I do not totally believe these statistics because how many rape cases are reported in Nigeria? Amongst my friends I know at least 3 people that have been affected.

Now how do we stop this .Firstly, rape and molestation victims (both male and female) must be encouraged to speak out without blame so they can heal .Secondly, public awareness for our children (boys and girls). Thirdly, stop molestation jokes. Lastly and most importantly, report any case of molestation or rape to the police and the accused must serve their term in prison. This would serve as lessons to everyone.
I believe that our bodies are the temple of God and if Uzzah in 2nd Samuel 6 :6 was killed for his error of touching the ark, then human bodies must not be touched without permission.
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