Groupie

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  The first time I heard this word was when Drake called someone a groupie in one of his songs, I did not check for the meaning until an influencer talked about it recently The google definitions are too extreme and derogatory but in the context of what I'm talking about a groupie can be someone who always wants to be with the "happening guys". After pondering about it for a couple of days I realized we might be and this mentee, mentor, networking, your association rave in Nigeria might have turned most of us to “groupies” in a way. The need to follow the latest popping person, enter their dms and introduce yourself, ask them to mentor you or to just be able to say I know them, bla bla bla   is turning some of us into something else I don’t have much to say but I pray we remember that as we appreciate the light in others, their talents and gifts, we'll never  lose sight of the light, talents and gifts we carry too. Appreciate them but focus on making your light
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High maintenance or Low maintenance

 


Recently, I saw a this or that challenge with Tolulope Solutions and her sisters on IG.

This matter has never graced my mind until I saw that video

“which group do I belong to high or low maintenance?

This was my perception at the time

High maintenance -these ladies are hailed by their peers and admirers (mostly guys)as “Babes” their skin is on fleek, members of slayers.ng and classy

Low maintenance – these ladies are the ones that people settle for when they don’t consider themselves up to the high maintenance geng. Most times, they are frugal.

The LM crew are seen as frugal spenders  always sacrificing to invest to provide a better future for themselves. To be honest, I love saving to invest but I also want to be called a babe and more. After listening to Ubong king’s  ”lessons to learn from a prostitute” and he explained that looking good is good business. I realized that high maintenance isn’t really about how much money you have in your account or how people rate your beauty. 

High maintenance – These are ladies that are self aware, confident, fashionable, they make wise financial decisions but still know when to “ relass and be taken kairuf”. A post on Toyosi Etim Effiong’s page gave me assurance that my definition was correct and my past perception was wrong.

Therefore, I bought few baby girl clothes, lav’yanna body cream and then decided to look good in whatever I have and still save to invest because my future is important to me. If you are feeling pressured to be one of the hot babes with the little you have,my solution is to consider  my redefinition of high maintenance.



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