Groupie

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  The first time I heard this word was when Drake called someone a groupie in one of his songs, I did not check for the meaning until an influencer talked about it recently The google definitions are too extreme and derogatory but in the context of what I'm talking about a groupie can be someone who always wants to be with the "happening guys". After pondering about it for a couple of days I realized we might be and this mentee, mentor, networking, your association rave in Nigeria might have turned most of us to “groupies” in a way. The need to follow the latest popping person, enter their dms and introduce yourself, ask them to mentor you or to just be able to say I know them, bla bla bla   is turning some of us into something else I don’t have much to say but I pray we remember that as we appreciate the light in others, their talents and gifts, we'll never  lose sight of the light, talents and gifts we carry too. Appreciate them but focus on making your light
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Handling Conflicts

Conflicts are inevitable in life and can have positive impact on the individuals if done right.

Recently, I got involved in an argument where someone made a statement about authority in male and female relationships and I was upset. I could have avoided saying anything but the statement triggered me and I choose to respond even though I tried my best to remain respectful of his opinions while stating mine I failed at my initial goal which was to give him a reason to change his perspective.

Days following this conflict, I kept thinking of why his opinion said innocently will read several meanings to people of different backgrounds and experiences.

My book for the month is The Richest Man that ever lived and in chapter 9 which talks about Solomon’s steps to winning conflicts and overcoming adversity. The steps from this book has shown me where I did wrong and ways to improve.

• Understand the purpose or goal of conflict – conflict is meant to help attain the best results and help all involved become better.

• Take a time out to regain your emotional control – when the topic is very close to your heart, pause and take time out before you engage in the argument so you can state your points clearly.

• Use the sandwich method to offer criticisms – apply praise first, criticism and then praise. This helps to disarm your opponent and shows you still value them.

• When attacked, don’t retaliate.

• Don’t use abusive remarks or body signals, threats etc.

Conflicts are important in our day to day lives so don’t run from it except it is baseless and will waste your time at the end of the day.

Leave a comment on your experiences with conflicts and methods you use to handle them.
Thanks for reading. Stay blessed and have a wonderful day.



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