Groupie

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  The first time I heard this word was when Drake called someone a groupie in one of his songs, I did not check for the meaning until an influencer talked about it recently The google definitions are too extreme and derogatory but in the context of what I'm talking about a groupie can be someone who always wants to be with the "happening guys". After pondering about it for a couple of days I realized we might be and this mentee, mentor, networking, your association rave in Nigeria might have turned most of us to “groupies” in a way. The need to follow the latest popping person, enter their dms and introduce yourself, ask them to mentor you or to just be able to say I know them, bla bla bla   is turning some of us into something else I don’t have much to say but I pray we remember that as we appreciate the light in others, their talents and gifts, we'll never  lose sight of the light, talents and gifts we carry too. Appreciate them but focus on making your light
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Man, know thyself


To know thyself is the beginning of all wisdom – Socrates

We all pride ourselves with our knowledge about several things on earth, physics, biology, metrology, virology etc. But we spend less time studying God’s greatest creation that can translate thoughts to words and action, emotions to tears, or generally the unseen to seen, store past events called memories and several other unbelievable things on their own.
 Psychology is the only research that can be carried out by every person simply because every specie is special in the way it operates. What is special about each person? the way we talk, laugh, walk, reason, communicate, interpret and assimilate information, our talents etc. It’s really necessary for every human to take time out to study themselves because we are going to be with ourselves for a long time and inorder to efficiently achieve our dreams. 
One important factor in order to know ourselves is for us to analyse and understand our backgrounds because to me it determines and influences  to a large extent how we behave .For instance, Nimi is trying to make herself stop excess spending on lavish things that give her self confidence, she has tried all self control methods but none has worked for her, little does she know that the inferiority complex she experienced as a young child is the root of her issue. Now she is 23 years old  still  to feel among with her peers. If she does not discover the root and deal with it, she would try all budgeting styles and would not succeed.
Sade is struggling with studies because, she is trying to read for 6 hours at a stretch, unknown to her that music and a nice, cool environment with a short prayer at the beginning is all she needs.
During this lock down, take out time to study yourself and remember its not a day job and you can change from time to time.
For me, I used to be someone that couldn’t read well with sound but now I read well with music, I used to only read at night but now only during the day, I had no interest in art but now I do, I used to feel like I was just a  book girl but now my heart is so open to  groom whatever new interest I  observe in myself.
Steps to understanding yourself
·         Ask God to reveal what he has hidden in this beautiful being called you.
·         Analyse your background and your present behaviours.
·         What is your value system (not what you want it to be but what it is at the moment)?
·         What are the most important things to you and why (be truthful with you answers)?
·         In three words describe yourself.
If you want to go far, study the car you are going to use, if not, you won’t make it. the same goes for anyone that wants to achieve destiny. I’m a firm believer in the notion that you cannot love what you do not know, self love can only really come when you know how much God loves you and knowing and understanding even the tiniest bit of yourself.
And in understanding yourself (flaws and best qualities) you would be able to understand, love and help others without judging.
Thanks for reading 😘.Stay blessed and have a great day.

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