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Groupie

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  The first time I heard this word was when Drake called someone a groupie in one of his songs, I did not check for the meaning until an influencer talked about it recently The google definitions are too extreme and derogatory but in the context of what I'm talking about a groupie can be someone who always wants to be with the "happening guys". After pondering about it for a couple of days I realized we might be and this mentee, mentor, networking, your association rave in Nigeria might have turned most of us to “groupies” in a way. The need to follow the latest popping person, enter their dms and introduce yourself, ask them to mentor you or to just be able to say I know them, bla bla bla   is turning some of us into something else I don’t have much to say but I pray we remember that as we appreciate the light in others, their talents and gifts, we'll never  lose sight of the light, talents and gifts we carry too. Appreciate them but focus on making your light

I FAILED AGAIN

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  Hmmm, I just checked my financials i.e. how I spent my income this month and my heart is broken💔😩, why won’t these tears😭 just come out? How did I end up making a mistake as big as this? Apparently I spent all my income without saving anything, instead I touched my savings. To feel better, I want to think of the savings spent as emergency fund, started listening to grown woman by Beyoncé but right now I don’t want to grow(adulting is the biggest scam😒), switched to miracles by Sia,it says …If you wanna beat your chest 'cause you feel the emptiness Go on and feel your loneliness Go on and feel your loneliness Then call me 'cause we're both in this… The song was made for times like this. Putting my stomach in the bank seems like the solution to this money allocation issue. I invested in skincare, at the time it made sense but now it makes no sense. For next month, I’m tempted to pay no tithe but I will (it’s a plus not a minus), torn between applauding mysel

High maintenance or Low maintenance

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  Recently, I saw a this or that challenge with Tolulope Solutions and her sisters on IG. This matter has never graced my mind until I saw that video “which group do I belong to high or low maintenance? This was my perception at the time High maintenance -these ladies are hailed by their peers and admirers (mostly guys)as “Babes” their skin is on fleek, members of slayers.ng and classy Low maintenance – these ladies are the ones that people settle for when they don’t consider themselves up to the high maintenance geng. Most times, they are frugal. The LM crew are seen as frugal spenders  always sacrificing to invest to provide a better future for themselves. To be honest, I love saving to invest but I also want to be called a babe and more. After listening to Ubong king’s  ”lessons to learn from a prostitute” and he explained that looking good is good business. I realized that high maintenance isn’t really about how much money you have in your account or how people rate your beauty.  H

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19th  January …an alarm that reminds me that time waits for no man. Sometimes I dread the day, sometimes I’m excited. This year, I’m  at peace, simply because I have no ounce of pressure on myself. I always tell God “This year,it’s me and you oo” I just want to learn more of God and myself. I have no regrets, I’m not sad because of anything I have failed at so its really like I am taking no baggage into the new age I feel light and free.  I’m graduating this year and the bills associated with adulthood are already waiting for me, at least at the end of this year, they would come with full force. Funny enough I have no  fear at the moment, tomorrow or something other time, I would get scared but deep down I trust God. I want to be independent of my parents but fully dependent on the one that owns silver and gold. I mean God gat me. So with this I enter into a new decade of my life in a few days with confidence that the year would be amazing. I am so grateful, you graced my blog with you

I stopped blogging

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To be honest, blogging is something really foreign to me. I used to love writing fiction but it has become one of the things I am uncertain about. You know when you like something but you doubt if you have the strength to be consistent at it but your reason for loving it is certain. Consistency is extremely important to me and whatever I do has to be sustainable. You become like this when legacy has stayed in your subconscious till it begins to rule your decisions. My friend and sister asked me “How far your blogging?” and to be honest I had no clear answer. Amongst all my excuses, the foundation of the decision was” I really hate being inconsistent especially when I miss  deadlines making it obvious . I decided to continue blogging “why?” because this blog is called new adults and I don’t think I am the only one struggling with being  consistent with personal goals so I’ll keep writing even when there is no ginger,when I do not deliver on time because if I quit I will never learn cons

Things to consider before investing

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Investment is one of the most popular words right now. It is impossible that one friend or the other has not advertised an investment opportunity to you. The usual format -“ you put X amount in and in the next Y days your money has increased or you would have to bring  X amount of people to make more money. This article is not to discourage you from engaging in it but to give advise on the do’s of investments. Important information to be obtained before you invest 1. Get information on how the system works. Ensure you get the full details about the investment material (stocks, bitcoin, agricultural products etc.)  from several people and the internet before you go ahead. Don’t be too lazy to read about this investment or to scared to ask questions- You are investing, your hard earned cash. Please be careful. 2. Obtain counsel from someone that knows more about investments. 3. Ensure that you decision is not ruled by greed. 4. Ensure the investment platform is trustworthy. I wil

Finding Purpose

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When the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. After a particular program in school where purpose was the topic, I went to an empty room of the fourth floor and burst into tears. Behind these tears was great fear “I am totally clueless on what God has sent me to earth for and if I don’t find it, what do I tell God on judgment day?” When I found my voice I began to beg God “Please show me your vision for my life”. After weeks of expecting a loud voice in my ears or having an encounter in my dreams, frustration kicked in and I got  determined to do with my life as I pleased since God was not answering (so I thought). During a meeting with my mentor at the time, Dr Azubike Ezenwoke, he said “God is more willing to show his purpose for your life than we are willing to know it”. This put my mind at rest and I remembered that there is  time for everything with God. At that point, I might have lost interest in school and jumped on the train if my purpose was revealed to me. To

How do I stay consistent?

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Consistency is the key to success. Jumping from one thing to another puts us at stage 1 of everything. Consistency has always been my major problem. Consistency in my service unit, relating with new friends, business, projects, resolutions, relationship with God etc. I am the type that gets pumped with energy, great possibilities at the beginning but with increasing challenges along the way my vibe drops and I remember why I started but the reasons losses importance to me as I continue. I started a new habit of waking up by 6am going out to listen to the word, meditate, praise God, exercise and plan for the day for an hour. I did it for two weeks with great results but I started having problems with sleeping early and then rain was always falling this made me relent. Now I’m like not again!!!!!!! The major reason why I became inconsistent was that I did not remind myself of the purpose I started in the first place. I wanted each day to be used wisely and that morning ritual was meant t